Parents and Families: Helpful Tips

to get you through each day with your college student!

Encourage self-reliance

If your student has a concern about housing or academic schedule, have him/her make the call to the appropriate person. Empowering your student to speak for his or herself fosters independence.

Create problem solvers

"What are YOU going to do about it?" Tape this phrase next to your phone and use it often.

Review basic management skills

Put the responsibility on your student to manage his/her time and money. Paying a late fee or oversleeping for class are inexpensive lessons that teach responsibility.

Have the tough conversations

Instead of saying "don't drink," ask, "how are you going to handle it if there is alcohol at a party?" Put the responsibility on your student to consider situations that may be difficult.

Expect drama

Cell phones, text and email messages have made it possible for parents to hear the immediate raw emotion of a situation. Consider the possibility that it may not be as bad as it sounds. Take a deep breath and say, "wow, that must really be hard for you."

Recognize your transition

It’s okay to be sad and miss your student. Prepare yourself by building up your support system, planning activities, or focusing on the other kids that live in your house.

Know your resources

Every campus has offices and resources to help parents. We are here to assist you if needed.

adapted from Jennifer Jones of University of Alabama